If you’re trying really hard, hear me out
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What’s always just beyond your grasp? What would you definitely get to—if only you had an extra two hours in your day? What’s been on your goal list for a looooong time without any progress? How can you finally, finally get around to this thing? The answer isn’t trying harder. That doesn’t work. You’ve tried trying harder, haven’t you? I sure have. And I got two years of burnout as a reward. There’s only one way that works. But first: be nice to yourself, for Pete’s sake. Stop telling yourself you’ll do better. Stop telling yourself that with more discipline, you’ll get around to Because you’re only implying you’re not good enough. That you’re weak or lazy or chaotic. You wouldn’t treat a friend that way. Give yourself permission not to try harder. Instead, simplify. Drop something that’s no longer serving you. Stop attending meetings of a club that no longer inspires you. Stop trying to half-heartedly learn a new language. Stop meeting your old college buddies for (a few too many) drinks every week. Deep down, you know what you should drop. Let the old make way for the new. And enjoy more quality time with your kids. Or whatever your thing may be! P.S. You have a list of goals, right? If not, let’s make one. |
Peter Akkies
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